because he has been an awesome friend.
because he just got married and was still more than accessible to us.
because he said he and his wife needed "to love up on" #1.
because he understands.
because he has always been supportive.
because he would never throw us away.
how did my person ever think he would be anything but supportive?
she worried that it would be too intrusive to bother him with our mess...
but he was more bothered that we didn't come to him right away.
and we love him for that.
and we realize that if you love someone unconditionally for years and they treat you like crap and toss you aside like garbage-- but someone you speak to off and on, moving in and ou of life, is immediately your rock when the storm hits....
well, we wasted our love.
and someone else got a free ride through their own issues and insecurities.
to quote a wise man, she (#2) took and took until she reached the bottom of the barrel, so now (#1) needs to flip it over.
i hope the next person #1 trusts enough to give to is capable of being unselfish.
i hope #2 realizes what a lousy human being she has become.
i wish her the best; but maybe i only wish her that because i know that eventually the longing and gnawing in her heart will be too great to ignore. and she will have to fight those feelings down and continue on with the path she has chosen.
“No man can wear one face to himself and another to the multitude without finally getting bewildered as to which may be true.” -- Hawthorne
