my person, for all of her great qualities, has short term memory issues.
it's what kept her with an abusive partner;
it's what makes her impulsive sometimes;
it's what makes her endlessly forgiving and sweet....
it's also what bites her on the ass when it comes to dating.
she forgets that women are never really honest about what they want unless they are positive about how their revelations will be received. telling a woman that you only want to date and have fun is simple; her response is not. if they say, "oh, yeah, me, too!" it means they want something serious and think you are just being guarded with your feelings. if they say, "i understand," then they probably do. do not tell the former about weekend plans; do not be honest about your dating unless specifically asked.
my person needs to carve this into the fabric of her long term memory, because women are great-- but they are crazy.
men are not any better.... three calls in three days is reason to run! but that is a story for a different day.
